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Independent Realist (S-M-T)
S-M-T-I-E-D
Independent Realist Buffer
“I communicate on a foundation of rational trust, and I talk only after taking time to think calmly.”
- #NoFrillsSimplicity
- #CleanCommunication
- #TimeToCoolDown
Straightforward and clear, you build a dependable relationship within sensible boundaries. You respect each other's space, share your heart in honest words, and resolve arguments after sorting out your thoughts.
Strengths
- Steady and dependable, you build an easygoing relationship that respects each other's space.
- You put your thoughts into clear words, guiding conversations so misunderstandings don't pile up.
- You respect each other's space and feelings, keeping room so arguments don't escalate.
Watch out for
- Because you show little, your partner may find it hard to read how warm you feel.
- Even when you're right, it can sound like a lecture or a judgment to your partner.
- While you step back to sort out your thoughts, your partner may feel shut out.
Dating tips
- Now and then, add a little excitement to everyday life with a small unplanned surprise.
- When you share an opinion, add one sentence about how you feel.
- When you need time alone to think, let your partner know: "I'll think a bit and come back to talk."
Great questions to ask me
- Once you've sorted out your thoughts, tell me whenever you're ready. I'll wait.
Conflict prescription
Do
Wait until your partner has calmed down, then share your thoughts clearly.
Avoid
While you wait, don't watch your partner coldly and pass critical judgment.
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- S-M-T-C-A-RPractical Solution SolverI offer clean, practical solutions and handle problems intuitively the moment they arise.
- S-M-T-C-A-DClean Support BufferI support my partner intuitively, but when there's friction I take some buffer time to stay level-headed.
- S-M-T-C-E-RClear Talk Go-getterI keep conversations clear and transparent, and I talk conflicts through plainly instead of putting them off.
- S-M-T-C-E-DTransparent Trust BufferI build trust honestly and clearly, but when talks overheat I calmly pause for a moment.
- S-M-T-I-A-RSelf-Reliant MediatorI stand on my own within clear boundaries, and when problems arise I find a clear agreement and sort things out.
- S-M-T-I-A-DClean Boundary BufferI build trust on respect for independence, and in a conflict we each return to our own space.
- S-M-T-I-E-RPlain Talk CloserI communicate plainly without fuss, and I clear up misunderstandings in the most rational, fastest way.