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Independent Realist (S-M-T)
S-M-T-C-E-R
Clear Talk Go-getter
“I keep conversations clear and transparent, and I talk conflicts through plainly instead of putting them off.”
- #ClearCommunication
- #TransparentTrust
- #ResolveRightAway
Straightforward and clear, you build a dependable relationship within sensible boundaries. You keep in frequent touch, put your feelings into words, and talk through hurt right away.
Strengths
- Steady and dependable, you build an easygoing relationship that respects each other's space.
- You put your thoughts into clear words, guiding conversations so misunderstandings don't pile up.
- You stay in touch and together often, and bring up hurt feelings right away to clear them.
Watch out for
- Because you show little, your partner may find it hard to read how warm you feel.
- Even when you're right, it can sound like a lecture or a judgment to your partner.
- When your partner needs time alone to think, it can feel to them like you're pushing.
Dating tips
- Now and then, add a little excitement to everyday life with a small unplanned surprise.
- When you share an opinion, add one sentence about how you feel.
- If your partner wants time after an argument, just agree on when you'll talk, then wait.
Great questions to ask me
- Let's lay it all out openly, with nothing hidden, and sort it out right away.
Conflict prescription
Do
Tie up the source of the conflict right away with transparent, honest words.
Avoid
Don't throw out cold, unfiltered words in the name of transparency.
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- S-M-T-C-A-RPractical Solution SolverI offer clean, practical solutions and handle problems intuitively the moment they arise.
- S-M-T-C-A-DClean Support BufferI support my partner intuitively, but when there's friction I take some buffer time to stay level-headed.
- S-M-T-C-E-DTransparent Trust BufferI build trust honestly and clearly, but when talks overheat I calmly pause for a moment.
- S-M-T-I-A-RSelf-Reliant MediatorI stand on my own within clear boundaries, and when problems arise I find a clear agreement and sort things out.
- S-M-T-I-A-DClean Boundary BufferI build trust on respect for independence, and in a conflict we each return to our own space.
- S-M-T-I-E-RPlain Talk CloserI communicate plainly without fuss, and I clear up misunderstandings in the most rational, fastest way.
- S-M-T-I-E-DIndependent Realist BufferI communicate on a foundation of rational trust, and I talk only after taking time to think calmly.