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Independent Realist (S-M-T)
S-M-T-C-E-D
Transparent Trust Buffer
“I build trust honestly and clearly, but when talks overheat I calmly pause for a moment.”
- #ClearCommunication
- #HonestTalk
- #TimeToCoolDown
Straightforward and clear, you build a dependable relationship within sensible boundaries. You spend lots of time together, share your heart with kind words, and settle conflict calmly once feelings have cooled.
Strengths
- Steady and dependable, you build an easygoing relationship that respects each other's space.
- You put your thoughts into clear words, guiding conversations so misunderstandings don't pile up.
- You stay close and soften the mood, then talk calmly once feelings have settled.
Watch out for
- Because you show little, your partner may find it hard to read how warm you feel.
- Even when you're right, it can sound like a lecture or a judgment to your partner.
- Putting off conflict can let unspoken hurt build up.
Dating tips
- Now and then, add a little excitement to everyday life with a small unplanned surprise.
- When you share an opinion, add one sentence about how you feel.
- Bring up even small hurts lightly before the day is over.
Great questions to ask me
- Let's talk again at a cool-headed moment when we can both be honest.
Conflict prescription
Do
Pick a time when you can both be calm and clear, and talk again.
Avoid
Don't use the pause as an excuse to give up on talking altogether.
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- S-M-T-C-E-RClear Talk Go-getterI keep conversations clear and transparent, and I talk conflicts through plainly instead of putting them off.
- S-M-T-I-A-RSelf-Reliant MediatorI stand on my own within clear boundaries, and when problems arise I find a clear agreement and sort things out.
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- S-M-T-I-E-DIndependent Realist BufferI communicate on a foundation of rational trust, and I talk only after taking time to think calmly.