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Independent Realist (S-M-T)
S-M-T-C-A-D
Clean Support Buffer
“I support my partner intuitively, but when there's friction I take some buffer time to stay level-headed.”
- #PracticalProblemSolver
- #IntuitiveSupport
- #TimeToCoolDown
Straightforward and clear, you build a dependable relationship within sensible boundaries. You stay close and care through actions, and when you argue you take a breath before making up gently.
Strengths
- Steady and dependable, you build an easygoing relationship that respects each other's space.
- When problems come up, you think them through calmly and help in ways that actually work.
- You stay close and soften the mood, then talk calmly once feelings have settled.
Watch out for
- Because you show little, your partner may find it hard to read how warm you feel.
- If you lead with solutions, your partner may feel you didn't really hear them.
- Putting off conflict can let unspoken hurt build up.
Dating tips
- Now and then, add a little excitement to everyday life with a small unplanned surprise.
- Before offering a fix, start with "That must have been hard."
- Bring up even small hurts lightly before the day is over.
Great questions to ask me
- Once the irrational feelings settle, let's reach a clean conclusion.
Conflict prescription
Do
To avoid unnecessary clashes, calmly wait for emotions to settle.
Avoid
Don't label your partner's feelings as 'irrational' and embarrass them.
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- S-M-T-C-A-RPractical Solution SolverI offer clean, practical solutions and handle problems intuitively the moment they arise.
- S-M-T-C-E-RClear Talk Go-getterI keep conversations clear and transparent, and I talk conflicts through plainly instead of putting them off.
- S-M-T-C-E-DTransparent Trust BufferI build trust honestly and clearly, but when talks overheat I calmly pause for a moment.
- S-M-T-I-A-RSelf-Reliant MediatorI stand on my own within clear boundaries, and when problems arise I find a clear agreement and sort things out.
- S-M-T-I-A-DClean Boundary BufferI build trust on respect for independence, and in a conflict we each return to our own space.
- S-M-T-I-E-RPlain Talk CloserI communicate plainly without fuss, and I clear up misunderstandings in the most rational, fastest way.
- S-M-T-I-E-DIndependent Realist BufferI communicate on a foundation of rational trust, and I talk only after taking time to think calmly.