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Sensitive Self-Reliant (S-M-F)
S-M-F-I-E-R
Restrained Feeling Mediator
“I express love with understated warmth, and I resolve friction sincerely and without fuss.”
- #RestrainedAfterglow
- #SubtleObserver
- #ResolveRightAway
You have a calm, deep sensibility and love quietly while keeping your own texture. You keep a comfortable distance but say clearly how you feel, and talk problems through as they come up.
Strengths
- Steady and dependable, you build an easygoing relationship that respects each other's space.
- You share feelings in honest, kind words, which helps your partner open up easily.
- You respect each other's time, yet face problems head-on as soon as they appear.
Watch out for
- Because you show little, your partner may find it hard to read how warm you feel.
- Without reassurance in words, your worries can grow.
- Keeping your distance most of the time but being blunt only in conflict can catch your partner off guard.
Dating tips
- Now and then, add a little excitement to everyday life with a small unplanned surprise.
- When you want reassurance in words, also count the care your partner has shown in actions.
- When you raise a problem, start by saying you're doing it because you want to protect the relationship.
Great questions to ask me
- One sincere word is enough. Show me your most honest feelings right now.
Conflict prescription
Do
Open up right away with words that are restrained but heartfelt.
Avoid
Don't hide your true feelings behind a cold front and make your partner feel a wall.
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- S-M-F-C-A-DHideaway BufferI'm quietly devoted, but when my heart is hurt I retreat to my own hideaway to heal.
- S-M-F-C-E-RDelicate Empathy SolverI value a deep emotional bond, and when friction arises I soothe hearts right away with delicate words.
- S-M-F-C-E-DGentle-Natured OrganizerI share affection with a gentle touch, and in a conflict I quietly smooth out the emotional aftertaste.
- S-M-F-I-A-ROwn-Haven SolverI act while keeping my own rhythm, and I sort out misunderstandings calmly, firmly, and right away.
- S-M-F-I-A-DCalm Rhythm GuardianA calm, self-reliant soul, I give myself a buffer to return to my natural rhythm when conflict comes up.
- S-M-F-I-E-DSubtle Observer BufferAs a quiet observer watching gently from afar, I give conflicts plenty of time as a buffer.